Groups can also be a forum for brainstorming coping techniques as members share some of the ways they have been able to move toward healing. You may come to see that if the people in your group can make it through their losses, so can you. Bereavement groups can foster a sense of connection because they allow you to see that other people are living with the same kind of loss that you are. That said, many people find bereavement groups to be very healing experiences.
The loss of loved one is a universal experience, but everyone’s grieving process is unique and there is not a one-size-fits-all approach. Sometimes, people even feel like their grief serves as a connection to their lost loved ones, and they cling to it as a means of remaining connected. It can feel unfair that you are still able to be in this world having positive experiences while your partner is gone. This is not uncommon among surviving spouses. If and when you do have lighter moments, it is possible (though certainly not guaranteed) that you may feel some guilt. Try to do more of those things when you feel up to it. If this is true, it might be useful to take a look at what those things are and consider what has felt best. You commented that all you have done is sleep and cry since your husband’s passing, but you followed this up by saying, “at least, that is how it seems.” In reading your follow-up comment, I wondered if, as you were writing this, you realized that you actually have engaged in some other activities in the months since your husband’s death. It is just too much to try to wrap your head around until it happens. I don’t think anyone can ever really be prepared for such a loss. It is also totally understandable losing a partner after 21 years of marriage is utterly devastating. Your anguish is palpable in your writing. I think I didn't want to believe it could happen. How do I move past this grief? How do I move on? I know I should have seen this coming, as he had gone downhill over the course of the previous two years, but I was woefully unprepared for this kind of loss. I just want him back! And yet I know he will never be back. I talk to him sometimes, all alone, but obviously I don't hear anything back. I ache for my husband every day, and I still reach for him at night, as I used to do when I would check on him.
Aside from my children and grandchildren, who have their own lives, I just don't know if life will ever have meaning for me again. I have family in the area, but I am sure I'm depressing company. I am nearing 70 now, and all I have done since he passed away is sleep and cry. He was my third marriage and, I'm sure, my last.
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